In 2010, God started showing my husband and I the need for definite answers on marital sex based on the word of God. He made us aware of Christian couples with questions about sex, but hadn’t found real answers in any books.
We found some authors use surveys from couples who expose their personal experiences. Surveys, however, are not applicable for unresolved issues of sex because we are all very different individuals in our feelings, likes and dislikes.
This burden stayed with us and a couple of years later Larry and I became assistants to Pastor Bill and Kim Neil in the marriage classes. Then, in 2014, Larry and I inherited the teaching of the marriage class as Pastor Bill and Kim went to pioneer a church in West Virginia. We both felt burdened to find answers to the questions couples had about sex, but where?
Isn’t there some way to have a solid foundation of sex, not based on opinions?
Yes, as we began our journey studying the Song of Solomon, we soon discovered that God’s word does indeed have answers. Imagine that, the creator of sex gave us some solid direction. The beauty of writing this book is that we certainly aren’t experts on sex, but we can present the word of God, as taught from the Creator and only expert on sex.
Christian couples may breeze through the Song of Solomon and be impressed with the poetry, beauty and passion, yet never discover the hidden keys in the revelatory word of God. The Song of Solomon will amaze many married couples as it unlocks secrets designed by God to bring the husband and wife into a fulfilling sexual union. The creator and designer of sex gives us His instructions.
The most prevalent, worldwide issue for marital sex is the husband’s premature ejaculation before the wife experiences orgasm. God’s design addresses these problems. This book exposes Freud’s sex fraud which has perpetrated erroneous, destructive thinking about women and sexual fulfillment for decades.
This website presents some of the work and revelation we have received. In writing our book, there were many topics we didn’t expound on because our purpose was to focus on the consummation. In the blogs, we write about other areas as well.
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We wrote our book, Simply Song of Solomon, in 3 sections. Section 1 is a narrative of Solomon and his bride as portrayed in the book, Song of Solomon, in the Bible. It tells the story of their betrothal or engagement, their wedding day and sexual consummation to seal the marriage covenant. As the story develops, it reveals conflict and how to resolve it. It ends with having children and moving into destiny as God has planned for their lives.
Most writings on the Song of Solomon portray this couple in endless love, affection and romance. These are all vital for a strong marriage relationship, but in real life there are issues to work through to keep those things alive and growing as a couple.
Section 2 details the narrative story from Section 1 to reveal God’s design for marriage and for marital sex. We look closely at the 8 chapters of Song of Solomon and incorporate other cross reference verses to bring revelation of this informative book of the Bible. With some study and prayer, scripture beautifully interprets scripture to reveal more facets of God’s word.
Section 3 contains the most amazing revelation we found in our study of Song of Solomon. As we studied, we could not leave out the revelation in the third level of our book. It’s not a deep revelation, but very extensive. This book of the Bible is poetry, which can have more than one level of meaning. In the unique way God revealed His purpose for married couples in Song of Solomon, we came to the understanding of His intention to include a revelation of His love story for all of His creation.
God chose the Jews and Israel as the nation to reveal Himself. I was a wild branch as a Gentile, but when I repented of my sins and professed belief in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, the One who died for my sins, I was a grafted into the True Vine. I then began inheriting the same promises as the Jews as declared in the everlasting covenant to Abraham.
This love song tells God’s story for His creation. It begins with Jesus accepting the cup of suffering proposed by the Father. It includes His death, resurrection, His church, the rapture of His church, the salvation of Israel, the millennial reign and the uniting of the church and Israel as the Lamb’s bride in heaven for eternity. Yes, all of that is in the Song of Solomon, the summary of His love song for His creation.
How can God’s story of His love for His creation parallel marriage and marital sex? Marital sex is very intimate. God longs for intimacy with His creation and the day we will be one with Him for eternity.
“And in that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me and I in you.” John 14:20
The husband physically entering his wife is a picture of the deepest intimacy. In the spiritual, God desires to be in us and us in Him. We have things in our hearts that hinder such intimacy, but as we draw close to Him, repent of those sins that hinder closeness with Him, we can go deeper in Him and He can be deeper in us. Who can understand His great love for us?